Men and women crave to be loved, to feel appreciated and to feel they belong. Love, as the old saying goes, turns the world. It is one of human being’s strongest emotions, and maybe the desire to be loved and love back could be one of the greatest needs that we have. To feel loved and to express your love to someone else, you must be in a loving relationship. Being in an intimate relationship where you are loved could make you get a different perspective to the world as you see it as a good place, you believe in yourself and feel at peace. However, human beings are complex creatures that are hard to understand and have deep desires that may be difficult to meet unless they come out clearly. Similarly, they have the capacity to be affectionate if shown the same. The main goal of lovers should be to help each other feel loved and also love the other so as to mutually benefit.
So what are some of the things that lovers can do or avoid to do to strengthen their relationship? Here are some dos and don’ts for a healthy loving and long-lasting relationship:
Tips to Strengthen Your Relationship
Do act at the appropriate time
Time can work for or against you. The secret is to know when to act or to wait. You can always know when it’s the right time if you listen to your inner voice. Do not push your partner to do a thing before it is not their best time, say to get married.
Do nurture emotional intimacy
You ought to not only live together physically but also emotionally .a couple is emotionally intimate if one can tell what the other want before they even say it. This is developed by being honest with each other and sensitive to the need of your lover.
Do make plans together
Although plans may not always come to fruition, having shared visions will inspire you and your partner to take the necessary actions towards achieving your long-range goals. Have a discussion about the future and put in place strategies towards getting that goal.
Do offer your partner comfort
Make your lover look forward to coming home and not to fear being met with demands for unsettled bills, the argument you had earlier and so on.
Don’t dwell on their weaknesses
You may choose to see what your partner does right or what they do wrong. Avoid emphasizing their poor side or else they will be motivated but see how you can help to make them improve
Don’t act hastily out of desperation
Always think through your actions before taking them and do not do anything out of desperation as it will lead to more desperation. For instance, do not threaten to part with your partner while you do not intend to, as they may give in to your demands worsening an already bad situation.
Irrespective of how your partner has treated you in the past, do not act in revenge or in bad faith. Treat your love as you would wish them to do you. You owe it to yourself not to them to always act well.
Don’t amplify things or assume anything
You need to always reflect on things logically before acting and at times overreacting. Have a talk with your significant other about your fear and concerns instead of blowing up on them. Prior to assuming things that may not be as you think, be honest with yourself and see if they are worth messing up your relationship.